Dear Dorie,

I’ve noticed my one-year old seems to be potty training on her own. Is this possible or just wishful thinking? She seems to really know when she’s going to “go” and I can even take her to the potty without upsetment. Any thoughts?

— Lucky Duck

Dear Lucky,

Toilet learning (the politically correct verbage for potty training) is completely unique to each child. Having the ability to sense bodily functions and then respond to them in different environments is complicated stuff. Some children are ready early and some late, but there is no specific age that is “right.”

There are some signs to look for that include some of what your daughter is already doing. Does she sense when she has to go or are you noticing the “potty dance?” If she’s noticing, does she indicate that she wants help? Is she uncomfortable in a soiled or wet diaper (this could be a skin irritation issue versus interest in the potty)? Does she wake up from naps dry (an indication of developing bladder control)?

If you, as her first teacher, firmly believe she is ready for toilet-learning, progress slowly and gently with great assistance on the potty. Be fully prepared for complete regression to diapers but also support her with reassurance and patience. There are many children that toilet learn early, you just want it to be sure that she is ready and not that you are pushing. Good luck.

— Dorie

(Dorie Meek is director of the Infant & Family Support Program, provided by Saint John’s Health Center in partnership with the Santa Monica-Malibu Unified School District. Meek answers questions concerning children ages birth to 5 years old. Submit your questions to “Dear Dorie” at meek@smmusd.org, or call (310) 452-6132; fax (310) 452-6392).