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# All the lonely people
- URL: https://www.smdp.com/all-the-lonely-people/
- Published: 2007-09-06T15:00:00.000Z
- Updated: 2026-10-25T00:55:38.000Z
- Author: Guest Author
- Tags: Opinion, Venice, #archive-import

*By Mark Marchillo Odd Man Out*

ALL THE LONELY PEOPLE … WHERE DO they all come from? Whoever wrote that song should take a look at all of us. Gander away.

Who isn’t lonely? I’ve come to that time in my life where I wonder what will happen to me when I’m too old to hit that bar scene. When it becomes pathetic. Don’t get me wrong. We all have the right to be there. But personally, I don’t wanna be out there when I’m 40\. Who does? Well, I think a lot of guys have made it their thing, to be single and just get as many guys as possible. Sure they say they want a relationship, but are they honestly seeking one? Then again, maybe they are. Seek away! But there is a heavy consensus of men who want only that casual affair, the nightly attraction, the one-nighter.

Nice work if you can get it. I see us out here on the Westside. Where do we go? Always West Hollywood. Rooster Fish once in a blue moon. Slim pickins over here, my friends. There’s nowhere to go. It’s not like there aren’t enough of us boys out here in Santa Monica and Venice. Boy, are we ever! Someone could make a killing opening up a club out here. The Friendship, long since dead (and longer since anyone went there), doesn’t count. Heck, Rooster barely counts! I often wonder why we all trek out to West Hollywood every weekend. I guess I go to replace lonesomeness with fun. That’s the way, right? Find your joy and more joy will follow. Or after staggering home, will the remorse of those solitary moments in bed feel more welcome than strange? There is a strangeness about living a life alone, the way so many of us do. You know how the straighties figure it — Oh! He must be gay, he always comes alone! And they’re right, for the most part. We always come alone. You can take that anyway. Even when we’re there, next to someone. Without the connection, there is only the individual.

But I figure that connection, that somebody, will come to me. And you. To all of us who want it, really. We just have to be patient, and not wear ourselves and our souls out before we get there. Save a little bit for the underdog who’s on his way to us. We hold out too long for that special guy, and we look relentlessly. That’s part of our problem. Maybe if we stop looking so thoroughly (take it easy guys), he’ll be able to find us apart of the wreckage that is so often me in that mirror. Maybe if I stop looking there’ll be something to look forward to.

*Originally published in the Santa Monica Daily Press print edition on September 6, 2007.* [Read the original PDF.](https://s3.us-east-1.amazonaws.com/smdp%5Fbackissues/090607.pdf?ref=smdp.com)