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# Just say no to some of these ‘yes’ men
- URL: https://www.smdp.com/just-say-no-to-some-of-these-yes-men/
- Published: 2007-07-12T15:00:00.000Z
- Updated: 2026-10-25T00:21:11.000Z
- Author: Guest Author
- Tags: Opinion, Santa Monica, #archive-import

*By Mark Marchillo Odd Man Out*

ALMOST EVERY GUY ON THE SCENE today is a Yes Man.

They’re everywhere. In the clubs. At the gym. In the bushes. Even, and more than likely, in the shower at your rec center. They say “yes” to it all. That is, everything carnal.

Ever wonder what gay relationships would be like if guys actually had the will power to hold out for longer than the three hours it takes to get from dinner and a movie to the living room sofa? I hear my friends bitter on about how hard it is to keep a boyfriend for more than three weeks, let alone three months. And three years? Almost unheard of, without the convenience of the ever popular “open” arrangement.

So why do we say yes? Why go for it, when we know all too well we’re giving up that one ounce of allure? The thing that keeps the straight guys going back to a girl for more and more is that unknown territory they may get a chance to finally explore that night. We’re guys, and guys are guys, no matter what their wrists say.

Our team seems to always be up at the free-throw line. Letting someone make a basket anytime they want ruins that little thing called mystery. Let’s face it: we have none. And the guys that do hold out for that third, or even fifth date…well, they’re what the rest of West Hollywood calls frigid. Prudish.

Well, Prudence here thinks that maybe that’s not such a bad thing. Give a guy what he wants and he’ll run. Keep that which he wants most dangling at arms length and he’ll hang around and wait for it to drop into his mouth. For awhile. Resisting sex too long in any situation can be detrimental.

I’m the first to admit how many guys have lost interest simply because I wouldn’t give it up. But in the age of “when-was-the-last-time-you-got-tested,” waiting two weeks, guys, should be the way to go. And that’s what we like best, right? To GO.

MARK MARCHILLO is freelance filmmaker and all-together nice guy living in Santa Monica. Send comments or suggestions regarding his column to

*Originally published in the Santa Monica Daily Press print edition on July 12, 2007.* [Read the original PDF.](https://s3.us-east-1.amazonaws.com/smdp%5Fbackissues/071207.pdf?ref=smdp.com)